I Am Beautiful
One of the nicest compliments I have ever been paid was during my second year at university. A friend of a friend told the friend that “95% of beautiful girls know that they’re beautiful – Kia’s in the 5% that don’t.”
I was genuinely flattered and accepted the compliment (albeit from the third person) in the self-deprecating way I do when I feel uncomfortable. You see, I’ve never really been comfortable with the word “beautiful”. “Pretty” I can deal with, “cute” is quite common but I’ve always felt that “beautiful” should be reserved for the Natalie Portmans and Jennifer Love Hewitts of the world – not normal girls like me walking the streets of London.
I mean, what is beautiful anyway? It is obviously subjective (for example, I know guys who fancy the pants off Amy Winehouse and others who think she looks like a moose) but it can also be distorted; there are stunning women out there who can’t see how beautiful they are. Conversely, there are women who think wearing clothes four sizes too small makes them attractive.
I bring this up only because I was watching I Am The Elephant Man yesterday – a Channel 4 documentary about Huang Chuncai; a man seriously malformed through a condition called neurofibromatosis – and it made me realise just how trivial some of my complaints are (e.g. flat hair, greasy skin, etc.). It made me appreciate what I have and I’m determined to start accepting compliments gracefully. So next time someone tells me I’m beautiful, I’m going to smile and say thank you because even though I may not look like Christy Turlington, I am beautiful, godamnit!
Having said that, I’m going out with three of the most beautiful women in
posted by Kia at 8:15 PM
4 Comments:
Beauty is not obviously subjective though. There is such a concept as objective beauty along side the subjective and it's why you mention Chuncai in your post above.
I think many of us avoid using terms like ugly and beautiful 'cos we're scared of being described as shallow. Oh and this is as an aside to getting used to how someone looks, or being able to look past their... uh... looks.
Oh and finally: I call the one on the right.
Ask a frog what beauty is and he would say “big eyes, a small head, green and slimy.”
I think beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder. Saying that, I think you're beautiful =)
> Shak
Shak, you must have learnt by now that girls like that are never single.
> Josh
*Smiles*
Thank you.
if you want it, you already got it. if you thought it, it better be what you want....
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