All the fair men

As many of you know, I'm getting married soon and therefore am officially “off the market.” A friend commented that, “It’s great you’ve got a ring on your finger. I bet there’s no better way of deterring the perverts, lechers, scrubs and freaks than with a wedding ring.” I agreed with laughter but you know, I think I owe something to all the guys that have approached me in the past. Firstly though, I want to divide this group of guys into two. Group B contains the greased up, dumbed down, non-entities that yell from cars, gape lecherously in train carriages or make kissing sounds as you walk by. Group A contains the guys that glance at you shyly, smile at you honestly or approach you sometimes respectfully and sometimes cheekily. And no, Group B does not consist of only unattractive guys and Group A does not consist of only attractive guys. (Before I go on, I should make it clear that there were not that many guys. I don’t want to come across as someone who fancies herself as a modern day Helen Troy, launching a thousand come-ons or anything.)

So anyway, to my Group A guys, I will say thanks for flattering me. I don’t think I was ever rude or dismissive (if anything, my friends accuse me of being too soft hence getting repeat offenders) but if I was, then I’m very very sorry.

To Group A guys in general, I want to say well done. Yeah, there you go. All the girls without wedding rings will hate me for encouraging you but you know what? They are flattered and it is brave of you. If you see a girl you like, go on ahead and approach her. She may be rude and dismissive but at least you did something about it. And if you’re too shy to approach her, then don’t be afraid to smile at her. More often than not, she will look away and you won’t get a response but that’s ok because maybe some time down the line, she’ll realise that you were brave for doing so and that you deserve some credit for it.

Oh, but do check for a wedding ring first :)

Kia